You know that feeling when you spend time with somebody or you are talking to them on the phone, or even reading their Facebook status and afterwards, you just feel exhausted and drained?
Negative people have the ability to drain you.
It is like they literally suck your energy away from you.
For those of you who have watched (or even better) read Harry Potter will be very familiar with the dementor. If you are not sure what a dementor is, here is a quote from Harry Potter:
“Dementors are among the foulest creatures that walk this earth. They infest the darkest, filthiest places, they glory in decay and despair, they drain peace, hope, and happiness out of the air around them… Get too near a Dementor and every good feeling, every happy memory will be sucked out of you. If it can, the Dementor will feed on you long enough to reduce you to something like itself…soulless and evil. You will be left with nothing but the worst experiences of your life.”
—Remus Lupin to Harry Potter
So, of course we know that this is just a story and there are no such things as dementors… Or are there?
Sometimes it seems that the very people that we spend time with, our family, our friends, our work colleagues, could be just like dementors. Their negativity and constant abuse or neglect or destructive behaviour leaves you feeling exhausted, like the good is sucked out of you.
It’s quite a scary thought but one that we deal with often enough for it to become a major stressor in our lives.
Let’s turn it around and imagine the power of spending time with people who are positive, motivating and uplifting. They would be the opposite of dementors because they will leave you feeling good and energised.
So what are you doing with dementors in your life?
Let them go! Choose not to let them affect you!
They are negative because of their own issues so don’t allow them to make those issues into your problem.
You are worth so much more than that and you deserve to be loved and respected.
Demand that for yourself!