Somebody in my family, who shall remain nameless at present to protect his dignity, has been watching Plain Jane on TV – basically he is an adult male watching a programme that has a target audience of teenage girls. So while I enjoy teasing him and giving him a hard time about it, I not so secretly love that programme too.
For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about, Plain Jane is a programme on MTV where a young woman who is quiet and has a low self esteem wants to date somebody that she is friends with. So enter the “fairy godmother” host who gives her a physical and psychological makeover and off she goes to her date, and we presume, her happy ever after (of course).
Who doesn’t enjoy a makeover story? The classic ugly duckling turns into a beautiful swan.
What I really like about the programme though is the way that they build up the girl’s confidence. They do it by pushing her out of her comfort zone and making her do something that she finds scary or threatening.
Once she has achieved that, she feels able to conquer anything and the transformation in her personality is sometimes remarkable.
Now, this is my plan – it is the first week of 2013 and I said in my last post that we should forget about New Year’s resolutions. So what about choosing something that really scares you, and make a date with your fear this year.
Imagine how small and insignificant all your day to day stressors will feel when you have done something as big as conquering a fear.
The amazing thing about fear is that our fear is not actually about the fear, it is about the story behind the fear. If you are afraid of heights, the fear is not so much about the height but rather about what you think might happen at a height – the story that you write for yourself. My fear of heights is not about height, it is about the thought of falling from that height.
This year, choose to rewrite your story.
You can be brave, you can be strong. You can be vulnerable, you can show your emotions, you can say NO!
You can do it – and please let me know how it goes. I’ll be making my plans for overcoming my fear of heights by sky diving – and don’t worry, you won’t miss a thing – I’ll document the whole process right here!