Valentines day lesson number one:
This morning I was driving in peak hour traffic and looking in wonder at how many red lights there were for valentines day.
Red lights? We actually call them traffic lights (and in South Africa for some inexplicable reason we call them robots).
Before you, probably very rightly, think that I have lost my mind, let me explain.
Of course I notice traffic lights. I stop at the red ones and go at the green.
But because I was so aware of it being valentines day and looking out for red things, the red lights became so much more noticeable to me.
It made me think of how often we are just not present because our minds are somewhere else. So, when you are driving, your mind is on where you are going and what you need to do rather than where you are now and what you are doing now.
If you choose to notice something, it just becomes so much more obvious how much we are surrounded by things that we generally don’t take in.
Who smiled at you? Who seems upset today?
You notice how beautiful the sky is and the light that filters through your window. You appreciate the taste of your lunch rather than just seeing it as something that you need to eat because you are hungry.
You notice the quiet.
And now that today is valentines day, what do you notice about yourself? What are your strengths? What do you value about yourself? What makes you special and unique?
Valentines Day lesson number two:
For me, Valentines Day is celebrated as Bolero day. It is the anniversary of Torvill and Dean winning the gold medal at the 1984 Olympics with their stunning performance of Bolero.
They were (and actually still are) the ultimate fairytale couple to me. And I don’t know what happened in their relationship but this I do know:
The lesson that I have learned from them is to never let a day go by without acknowledging your feelings and yes, your love for somebody else. It doesn’t have to be your life partner or the love of your life. What about your family? What about the friends who are there for you when you need them, the people who make you smile?
Don’t ever forget to let them know how much they mean to you.
I hope that nobody waits for once a year to appreciate and acknowledge themselves and those people that deserve your love.