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This week I have been functioning in crisis mode.

My husband has been in hospital the whole week and of course my life has been frustrating, stressful and basically upside down.

And then I thought about some of the things that I have done to cope and decided to compile a list.

You can apply this to your own situation or for helping you to get through any crisis.

  1. Don’t over or under expect anything from anyone.  People who you expect will help you don’t and people who you don’t expect anything from, do a lot for you.  It is what it is.
  2. Ask for help!  People are willing to give if you are willing to ask.  And it makes them happy to be able to help too.
  3. Chocolate works wonders.
  4. Sometimes you are NOT going to have control over the situation.  And fighting for that control is only going to frustrate you more.
  5. There will always be at least one person who will make you smile (like my wonderful friend who suggests shoes best suited to go with a nervous breakdown – still looking for the best ones).  You need those kind of people in your life.  Keep them close.
  6. Exhaustion happens quickly, but if you give yourself a break – like having an early night or a luxurious bubble bath (without feeling guilty about it) you can bounce back quickly.
  7. There will be lots of time in life to get things like homework and household chores done.  And now may not be that time.  Leave it!
  8. Wake up, get out of bed (even if your body screams don’t) and put one foot in front of the other.  And then do it again.
  9. Even if you don’t feel like it, keep busy – it is good for you to be distracted.
  10. Remember that what you are going through is situational.  And it will pass.  Stop thinking about what could have been or what you should have done, or what if, or what might be.  It just is! And it is OK to say that you are not OK (one day you will be).