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A lesson from Judith Light

20 Thursday Oct 2016

Posted by Andi in Acts of Kindness, Advice, Attitude, Moods, Positivity

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My husband knows the deal – if any of the celebrities that I adore – Colin Firth, Jayne Torvill or Judith Light – show up at my doorstep, I may just have to leave with them.
I adore Morgan Freeman too but more as the narrator for my life story: “Andi ponders on whether she should have tea or coffee.  She chooses tea and then wonders whether tea is really just a gateway drug to chocolate biscuits….”

Judith Light is a well known and acclaimed actress but the one thing that I have noticed about every single interview that she does is not only her humility but also that she takes a marked interest in the person interviewing her.  It never seems that the interview is just about her, sometimes it is like she is interviewing the interviewer too!
This is an amazing quality that we can all aspire to and is certainly the reason that I really admire her so much.

Nobody is more important than somebody else!
You may have more money, a nicer car, a “better job” (which I put in quotation marks because who is to say whose job is better or more worthy than somebody else’s?), have more experience, be more knowledgeable or have more years than someone else but that does not mean that you are better than them. Ever!

Make it your mission today to take a moment to speak to somebody who you usually wouldn’t talk to.
Do you know the name of the cleaner who works in your office?
Have you asked the security guard how his day is going?
Compliment your boss on his choice of tie (yes, really!)
Smile at a stranger.
Say something nice to the person standing in front of you in the queue.

The idea is that if you are kind to somebody else, inevitably they will be kind to you.  And you will feel better about yourself and your day, and then you will feel a little less stressed.
It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks about you. If only one person thinks that you are worthy (even if that person is you), then you are worthy enough!

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My list of wonderful things I’ve done

13 Thursday Oct 2016

Posted by Andi in Acts of Kindness, Attitude, Creativity, Freedom, Lists, Mental health, Positivity, Projects

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Yesterday was the Jewish holy day of Yom Kippur.  It is a day when we have a final opportunity to ask for forgiveness for our sins and contemplate the year ahead and how we are going to live it better than the last.
We spend so much energy focusing on what we have done wrong and very little (or even no time at all) looking at what we did right.  A few days ago, I read an article where the author suggested that we replace our list of sins (which it seems I have done many) with a list of all the good deeds that we have done.

Rabbi Weiss wrote this down as:

We have loved, we have blessed, we have grown, we have spoken positively, we have raised up, we have shown compassion, we have acted enthusiastically, we have been empathetic.We have cultivated truth, we have given good advice.  We have respected, we have learned, we have comforted, we have forgiven.
We have been creative, we have been stirred… we have given full effort, we have supported, we have contributed, we have repaired.

How much better is this list than a list of all of our sins?
Of course we sin, but I am sure that every one of us do far more good than bad.
I think that it is worth reading this list of good deeds every day to remind yourself of how much you have achieved.
Please add your own achievements today – things like:
I have enjoyed tea, I drew a picture of a dragon, I knitted a square for a blanket, I smiled, I laughed, I licked the batter when I baked a cake, I danced, I sang out loud, I made someone feel better….

I am sure your list will be long and wonderful

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The story of my life (today)

05 Wednesday Oct 2016

Posted by Andi in Attitude, Freedom, Positivity, Quiet and slow, Self growth

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Today was a totally bizarre day:

  1. I woke up too early
  2. I got to work late because an accident happened in front of me and the drivers decided to resolve the problem by beating each other up
  3. I left work late which meant that I was late to fetch my kids from school
  4. BUT: my kids came out of school late which meant that I drove in exactly as they were walking out of class
  5. AND: the icing on the cake…. As I was driving to fetch them, I came across a terrible accident that had happened only a few minutes before I got there – the few minutes before that I was meant to be driving through that intersection if I hadn’t been running late.

I don’t try to analyse things too deeply – I may have a (very stressed out) guardian angel looking after me, knocking disasters out of my way.  G-d may be on my side (for once).
It may be fate, it may be coincidence, it also may mean nothing.

But this I do know:
We do not have control over anything outside of ourselves.
Things are going to happen and they may affect us negatively or positively but still we have no control over them.
Sometimes you just need to let things happen.
Bad things happen to good people, good things happen to bad people, good things happen to good people too.
If we can be gracious enough to let it go, to not stress about what we can’t control, to not worry about other people and their actions, we would be much calmer and happier in our lives

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