One of the most difficult things to deal with when life gets really stressful is trying to get ‘control’ back.
By control we mean getting life back to where we feel familiar with what we are doing. We want things to function the way they have always worked. And life has a funny (okay really not that funny) way of pushing you way out of your comfort zone which leaves you reeling and fighting to take control back.
But what if you weren’t meant to have control over it in the first place? As terrible as it sounds, and no matter how much we hate it, when we lose control it is just not worth fighting to get the control back. You have to find a new way of doing things.
Losing control gives you a new perspective and a different angle on your life. It gives you a chance to start again.
When it seems that everything is out of control and you feel that you are falling apart tell yourself:
– I take responsibility for myself
– I do not blame others for my problems (not that it isn’t their fault but that you don’t give them power over you)
– I can take control back by changing the way that I do things
– I can make decisions for myself
– My emotions are determined by me
You have no idea how strong you really are or what you are capable of until you go through this. I really hope that one day you will look back at this stressful time and be really proud of yourself for overcoming this and taking control back in your own unique way.