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Be brave enough to fail

30 Thursday Aug 2018

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All through our lives and definitely in childhood (well, that was my experience of education and growing up), we are told that failure is a bad thing to be avoided at all costs.
Does the phrase “you’re not trying hard enough!” sound familiar?
JK Rowling said:
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case you fail by default”

Instead of seeing failure as a bad thing, why can’t we see it as an opportunity to grow? To try to figure out what works and what doesn’t. What our strengths are and what our weaknesses are.  And to keep on building on those strengths rather than fighting to overcome weaknesses.

I sometimes think that I am the queen of mess ups. And while I do beat myself up a bit when I’ve made another mistake (usually from jumping into things impulsively), I try to be gentle on myself.  And I seriously encourage you to do the same.
Be gentle on yourself.
Explore what works, go on a journey, make new discoveries, live for the moment.
Constantly worrying about the potential outcome and possible failure of every decision that you make and every action that you take will just paralyze you and stop you from reaching your potential and living a content (or dare I say it, happy) life.
Live a messy, confused and exciting life.
Be bold in your decisions.
And most of all trust in the process – it will unfold the way it is meant to.

Afraid of change?

06 Thursday Dec 2012

Posted by in Attitude, Change, Life journey, Self growth

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The ongoing saga of the loss of the great tree…
As much as it upset me to see that tree fall, and believe me it was painful to watch, and it seemed to fight a good fight taking a full week before it finally succumbed, something good came from the whole situation
I was being overly dramatic and emotional about it but the change forced me to see the light. Literally.
As much as I loved the privacy and the greenery that the tree provided, we never had a clear view of the sky.
And suddenly in all its glory, there was the sky. Our house is lighter and brighter and we can watch the sun rising in the morning and the moon rising in the evening.
I can laugh at myself when I think about how stressed I was about that tree.
A tree that I had no control over. Yes, I miss the tree, but it has gone. There is nothing that I can do to bring it back.
Doesn’t life do just that to us?
You get into a comfort zone where everything is familiar and you feel in control of things and then suddenly, Bam! Something happens that throws everything out of your control.
And that is going to make you feel helpless and miserable.
For a while.
And then you see the light!
Maybe this change was forced on you because you were too scared to do it yourself.  We can fight change as much as we like but life has a way of making sure that you don’t stay too comfortable.

Even depression forces you to change.  I see depression as a blessing in disguise because when you are at your lowest, you have nothing to lose and change becomes so much less scary.  And when you are at your lowest, you can’t see the bigger picture.  The fact that all of those things that seemed so terrible before have become small in comparison to the battles that you are going through right now. You realise that you are a survivor!
Try to embrace change, as difficult as it may be.
Something far greater and much more exciting may be waiting for you around the corner if you are brave enough to go and take a look.
Keep being brave, keep moving forward.
I know you can do it!