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Taking control

25 Wednesday Oct 2017

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One of the most difficult things to deal with when life gets really stressful is trying to get ‘control’ back.
By control we mean getting life back to where we feel familiar with what we are doing.  We want things to function the way they have always worked.  And life has a funny (okay really not that funny) way of pushing you way out of your comfort zone which leaves you reeling and fighting to take control back.

But what if you weren’t meant to have control over it in the first place?  As terrible as it sounds, and no matter how much we hate it, when we lose control it is just not worth fighting to get the control back.  You have to find a new way of doing things.
Losing control gives you a new perspective and a different angle on your life.  It gives you a chance to start again.
When it seems that everything is out of control and you feel that you are falling apart tell yourself:

– I take responsibility for myself
– I do not blame others for my problems (not that it isn’t their fault but that you don’t give them power over you)
– I can take control back by changing the way that I do things
– I can make decisions for myself
– My emotions are determined by me

You have no idea how strong you really are or what you are capable of until you go through this.  I really hope that one day you will look back at this stressful time and be really proud of yourself for overcoming this and taking control back in your own unique way.

Choose to be happy

21 Thursday Feb 2013

Posted by in Attitude, Life Lessons, Positivity

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This month in the Jewish calendar is called Adar.
They say that when Adar comes joy increases.
Now you may ask how a new month starts and suddenly everyone gets happy. But it happens!
If you have the attitude that something positive is happening or is going to happen and you decide to shift your attitude, then amazing things happen. Your experiences in life actually change.
I understand that we don’t have control over our lives and that things happen that can negatively influence our thoughts and emotions.
But if you choose to be happy, or try your absolute best to be as happy as you can despite of your circumstances, then you will notice a big difference in the way your life seems to work out.

A few days ago, I was almost killed in an almost accident. Well, that’s the dramatic version of the story.  My choice afterwards, once I had finished shaking and feeling absolutely nauseous, was either to focus on the fact that I could have died or that I am blessed to have survived such a near miss.
What happens to you is not a choice. How you deal with it is!
Stop saying but or what if or I can’t.
Start saying yes I can or I’ll try.

François-Marie Arouet otherwise known as Voltaire was a French writer, historian and philosopher who lived from 1694 to 1778.
He had a saying: “I choose to be happy because it is good for my health.”  Even way back then, he knew that positivity had a huge impact on health.
Now that we are in the scientific era, it has been proven that people who are happier and more positive, have stronger immune systems and better longevity.  So it is not only about your mental health but your physical health too.

I hope that you know that you are worth it and your life is worth living. It is worth living in a good, happy and positive way.
Let the happiness in!