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Too blessed?

03 Tuesday Oct 2017

Posted by Andi in Advice, Attitude, Mindfulness, Stress

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blessings, control, mindfulness, positive, stress

There’s a saying that I hear people using all the time – “too blessed to be stressed”
It’s a lovely saying but I think that sometimes it’s a challenge to feel that way.  It is implying that if you have blessings (which, let’s face it, we all do) that you can’t get stressed.  Everybody feels stress and sometimes your stress can become overwhelming.
What helps is to accept that you are going through a stressful time but also to be mindful enough to recognise what you have right now (other than stress) – notice the good around you.  Even if all you can think about is that you are still breathing.

After a week of experiencing losses and deprivations – from the loss of my dear friend, to my son going overseas and going through the insomnia that comes with those worries and then going through the fast of Yom Kippur with no food or water for 25 hours, I was really aware of what I was missing.  But I was also very aware of what I have.  To be starving but knowing that a great meal is waiting for me at the end of the fast is far more than most people have.  Some people feel that way on a daily basis and they have no end in sight.

No matter how much you are going through, when your mind starts racing ahead to worry about what you haven’t got, learn to focus on what you have.
You may not be too blessed but you definitely are blessed.

You’ve got this! You can go through this stress and this worry and you will come through this on the other side.
Just keep reminding yourself that you can do it, keep focusing on right now.
“I have this, I am in control”

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Quick stress management

17 Wednesday Aug 2016

Posted by Andi in Advice, Quiet and slow, Stress

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affirmation, breathing, calm, positive, quick stress management techniques, stress management

In the fast paced, super stressed world that we live in, we need some quick solutions in order to deal with stress.
Here are some of my favourite easy to do, quick stress management techniques:

Take a deep breath – stop holding your breath. Yes, we really spend ages not breathing properly.

Put down that phone, step away from the screen.  The world has not been known to end if you don’t answer that message right now

A drop of lavender oil on your wrist is really soothing

Find someone to hug – maybe not a random stranger (though who am I to say don’t do it?) and if there is nobody to hug, then hug yourself

Walk outside in the sunshine – get away from artificial light

Stay away (as much as possible), ignore or generally avoid people who drain your energy with their negativity

Write a one line affirmation – “I am amazing”, “I am a survivor”, “I am strong”, “I am brave”

Decorate your affirmation with glitter and washi tape (OK, maybe that’s just me who does that)

Just focus on this moment, right now and tell yourself “I am OK”

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10 Tuesday Feb 2015

Posted by Andi in Attitude, Positivity

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Wow, the last two days have been so filled with negativity at work (and that is not the clients I’m talking about – I expect depressed people to be negative).
And then today, both of my kids came home moaning about negative teachers and unfair friends.
Add to that the general feeling of negativity in the country and the community at the moment with all the load shedding that we are dealing with.
[For those of you who are reading this and are privileged enough not to know what load shedding is: our electricity supplier cuts our electricity off for 4 hours or more every few days.]
The positive side to load shedding is that South Africa has been named one of the most romantic countries in the world because everyone has candle lit dinners (drum roll please)
So it seems that we are all drowning in negativity.

And then I came across this awesome quote:
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It doesn’t matter how much negativity is around you, it is your choice to let that negativity in.
And you choose to allow it to get you down.
Or, you choose to rise above the negativity.
In which case, you have two choices here – either you can care less (but don’t allow yourself to get stressed by doing so) or you can continue to be positive and hard working and true to yourself and not allow the negative influences around you to affect your amazing self.
I know that you are worth a lot more than the negative feedback or the negative attitude that you are getting.  Just believe in you!

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Living a happy, multidimensional life

05 Friday Sep 2014

Posted by Andi in Advice, Creativity, Positivity

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creativity, happiness, multidimensional, not feeling guilty, opportunity, positive

I went to an amazing conference last weekend and one of the things that really struck me about the people that I met and the speakers that I heard was that so many of those people live a multidimensional life.
By that I mean that there are people who really don’t have defined careers.
They are qualified in one thing, work in something else and then still do another thing in their “spare time”.
Sometimes, they do far more than that.
And that is on top of the usual multidimensional life that they are already living by working, being family members, belonging to a certain group or culture and somehow fitting into the world.

The more I think about this idea of being multidimensional, and of how much I do in my life, the more it sits well with me.
We spend so much time and energy trying to fit in and trying to justify that what we are doing is right.
I meet working mothers who feel guilty for not staying at home; stay at home mothers who feel guilty about not working; people who are working in careers that have nothing to do with what they have studied; people who can’t settle in one career and need to move every few years; people who are more excited by their hobbies than their jobs…
The list goes on.

We would all be so much happier if we just allowed ourselves to really do what makes us happy.  Rather than trying to fit in, or live according to other’s expectations of us.
Just be you!
Do what you want to do, create more opportunities to do the things that fulfill you and make you happy.
You may think that you don’t have the time to do these things but you will find yourself so much more energised in your life when you are happy doing things that you want to do.
You don’t need as much sleep as you think you do (6-8 hours is plenty for an adult), you don’t need to watch as much television as you think you do, you don’t need to waste time just staring out of the window wishing that your life would be better.
Do it! Create it!
You are so worthy!

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The need for happiness

21 Friday Mar 2014

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100 Happy Days, attitude, happy, holiday, positive, work

Today is a holiday and I had told myself that no matter what, I was not going to work today.
That plan didn’t last very long because there was suddenly an emergency HIV intervention that I had to do, and then I thought that if I had to go to work, I might as well actually work.
I started my drive to work on unusually quiet streets having a good old moan that the streets being so quiet meant that I had to have been one of the only people in the entire city who was working.
Then I started to appreciate the quieter drive and I turned up the music (George Winston) and smiled.
Of course!
Aren’t I almost exactly in the middle of my 100 happy days project?
So, of course it wasn’t great to have to work on a holiday and I would have really enjoyed a lie-in this morning. But the roads were peaceful; the patients who thought that they were not going to see me for 3 days were grateful that I was there and the real bonus was that I didn’t have to do all the house work!

When I signed up for the 100 happy days project, they said that if you committed to the project, you would start to see things more positively and would therefore be more positive about life in general.
Is it working?
I definitely think it is. Even if I have to sometimes force myself to look beyond the stress just because I am thinking about what I am going to enter into my happy days journal.
Looking for what makes you happy just lifts the stress a bit. It makes you focus on the moment – it is not about ‘when will I be happy?’, or ‘what do I need to have in order to be happy?’ but rather ‘what do I have right now that is making me happy?’
It makes you truly grateful for what you have rather than just yearning for what you want.
And today, if nothing else, I was truly grateful to have a job to go to, even on a holiday, that keeps me happy and fulfilled.

Start opening your eyes to the immense about of happy things happening all around you – it is really worth it!

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Which wolf would you choose?

31 Thursday Oct 2013

Posted by Andi in Attitude, Positivity

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I’m sitting in my car listening to opera and eating a peppermint crisp (sorry to my non-South African readers who don’t know what this is.  It is an exquisite chocolate with crispy crackley peppermint candy inside)
Absolute bliss! And I deserve it!

There is a story that has been doing the email and Facebook rounds that the tells the story about a discussion between an old Cherokee and his grandson.  He said, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves that goes on inside of all of us.  One is evil, it is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.
The other is good.  It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “whichever one you feed”

It is such a lovely story that happens to be so true and so relevant to the lives that we lead in this busy, hectic, crazy world of ours. 
You always have a choice between the negative and the positive.
I could choose to be irritable about having to sit in the car waiting for my son to finish his drum lessons or I can choose to use this time for my own peaceful, happy and quiet (kid free) time (and to write this of course).

I am not saying that people with depression can choose to be positive when they are not well.  That is a really difficult thing to do.
But I am saying that most people who are stressed (and I know that you don’t want to be stressed because you are reading this) tend to choose the negative option.  We get stuck in the negativity and always expect the worst.
The problem is that if you have a negative attitude, you tend to only notice the negative. 
You tend to let the small stuff get you down and you quickly become overwhelmed by your life and all of your responsibilities.
Yet, if you choose to focus on positivity, you start noticing the good around you.  You feel more able to cope and find life more enjoyable because you create enjoyable moments.

Try not to feed the negative wolf.
I know that you can make that choice, because your life is worth so much more than entertaining that negative wolf!

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